Several years ago, I spent about six months unemployed. Collecting unemployment from the state of Illinois is something of a joke, in my opinion. I know a lot of people who collect and don’t do a damn thing to find a job. I even had a recruiter ask me if I was collecting, and if I would still be interested in part time or freelance work if it would mess up the unemployment check. Really? I thought that the point was to REEMPLOY yourself!
Of course, as someone who spent many hours a day, five days a week, for six months searching, I’m a little jaded. I had to go to a state mandated “re-employment” workshop, something that people who had been collecting UI for years had never been to…and still, no full-time employment for Chrissy.
I’ve also had my fair share of singleton experiences. I spent the better portion of my adult life single and made the rounds of dating–online and otherwise.
So having spent a lot of time job hunting, and a lot of time dating…I realized that job hunting is a lot like dating. More specifically, job hunting is a lot like online dating.
How to find a job…or how to find a date
Build your online profile. You need to make yourself marketable to your target audience. Whether it’s a future boss or a future boyfriend, you need to know what they want and give yourself the appearance that you have it. The more you write, the more interesting (or boring) you become. You’ve got to have a perfectly written cover letter or dating profile that stands out in a crowd of other single or unemployed persons. Not only that, it has to stand out to the particular type of person or company that you’re trying to snag.
Search. Search for the forever employer. Search for the forever boyfriend or girlfriend. Search for a right-now date or the right-now job. You’ve got your information posted for them to find you; now, you have to try to find them. With a plethora of websites and apps available for you to find your perfect match, you can spend hours filling out forms with all of your information, writing about yourself, and so much more. This step is where desperation can often come into play. Whether you’re sending out 500 job applications on CareerBuilder, or sending messages to 500 different people on Match.com, you’ve got to make sure to limit the sound of despondency in your tone. Keep it confident. Simple.
Make contact. Once you’ve found a potential match, you’ve got to get in touch with them in the hopes that they will respond to your inquiry. If they’ve found you first, you need to take it from virtual communication to real communication. Email, phone, and then in-person communication. It’s a process
The first date or the interview. From the pre-meeting anxiety to the sigh of relief upon its completion, these two are incredibly similar. You make yourself look your absolute best–a best that you almost never look in real life. A brand new outfit, coiffed tresses, flawless make-up, and whatever else you can think of. You’re showcasing a part of yourself that almost never makes it out into the real world. Because ain’t nobody got time for that every day.
Wait. Hope they call. Whether it’s the second interview or the second date, you can only wait for them to make the decision that they’ll call. Of course, you can be proactive and make the first move, but even then, it’s always a waiting game. Are they going to answer? Are they going to turn down your request for a second date or meeting?
Basically, you’re trying to fit personalities into a functional relationship that will become mutually beneficial. Dating or job-hunting–the questions are all the same. Are you personable? Are you a hard-worker? Are you intelligent? Can you keep up? Do you mesh well together?
Eventually, you’ll find the right one at the right time, and things, hopefully, work out well.
I have been out of the datin and unemployment pool for so long I would not know how to handle it!
Yeah, I don’t miss being single or unemployed one tiny bit. It would not be fun.
I think being employed is like being in a relationship in that a lot of people would rather stay in their current situation, no matter how bad, than make a change.
I love you by the way. I think you’re adorable. You should change your blog name to Adorable Chrissy.
OMG Samara commented on my post! *swoon*
I agree 100%. I had a co-worker leave because it was such a toxic relationship. They way she talked about it was like speaking about an abusive partner. It wasn’t healthy for her, and she walked away. A lot of us wait around to find another one before moving on just for that “security.”
I, on the other hand, left a job once without the prospect of another (which didn’t land me on unemployment insurance, merely without a job whilst in grad school). So it’s really hard for me to so much as consider quitting without another job lined up. And job hunting sucks so hard.
The love is most certainly mutual. And thank you – if I told you one of my goals in life was to be adorable, would you believe me?
Yes! And you have achieved that goal! xox
I’ve been unemployed for 5 years and married for just as long. At least blogging, traveling and being a student has kept me busy! Lol.
That’s a lot to keep you busy! I was so depressed when I lost my job, because I felt like no one wanted to hire me, but the job market is tough.
Ohhhh YUK. Samara hit the nail on the head. I’ve stayed in a bad job AND a bad marriage for the fear of what else. Now at least I seem to have gotten the job right, I just need to figure out (at some point before whats left to be gotten of me is too far gone to be got by whatever’s left to get) something something about dating *sigh*
Yay for the right job! That means more time to figure out the dating part – and there is a LOT of you left to be gotten and it’s ALL wonderful.
*wan smiles* You’re good for my ego, m’dear 🙂 You’re right though. There’s time.
I dislike dating AND job hunting. Hopefully I’ll never have to do either of them again.
Agreed. Although I foresee more job hunting in my future. I’m on a break from it right now – I figure I’ll enjoy the summer where I’m at.
I’m sure I’ll have to look for another job at some point, too. I just hope not. I hate trying to talk myself up…
Yeaaahhh…I hear that.
I haven’t dated or looked for a job in over a decade. Just the thought of either sends me into a panic. Hold me, please.
LOL. Oh man. I’m a little jealous. One day, I won’t have to job hunt. That’s the goal. One day. And dating? I’m definitely over that. Brian is NEVER getting rid of me. I’m like a barnacle.
I can’t believe this comparison never occurred to me before. *slaps head* It’s would actually be really good marriage counseling advice, to tell a couple to treat their relationship with as much respect and attention as they treat their jobs. Like, you know, put on a bra sometimes and stuff.
You’re so right. Wait. I have to wear a bra to work?
Unfortunately if you’re a man, it’s usually a woman who’s deciding if you stay unemployed, thereby deciding whether you stay single, since women don’t care how good of a man you are if you’re unemployed, and they even think that if you’re unemployed, you like not having a job and not having any money, and are unsupportive of your struggle and don’t want to talk to you until after you’ve reached your goals, at which time you can do a lot better than her anyway.
When I say deciding if you’re unemployed, I mean that most HR and many hiring managers are women, so it’s ironic that women are in the position to keep men from being dateable