How to be a beautiful woman

  1. Be kind. Even to abhorrent individuals who will try to bring you down.
  2. Be able to rise above anyone who tries to tell you that you can’t play on the playground.
  3. Have hope. Because hope makes the world a brighter, more beautiful place.
  4. Know that your face is beautiful because it is uniquely yours. And sometimes you might wear makeup because it’s fun to play with. And sometimes you might not because you don’t feel like you need it or because you’re tired. Or sick. Or you want to see the lines that travel across your face like a map to every emotion you’ve ever had.
  5. Be a feminist. If you want. It’s not required. We’re not pushy around here.
  6. Be angry when you’re angry. You’re allowed to have emotions.
  7. Say what you feel. No one knows what’s happening inside your head or heart until you tell them.
  8. Be you. Always. Unapologetically.
  9. Wear what makes you happy. Allow yourself to be comfortable without worrying what other people think.
  10. Love yourself.
  11. Listen to yourself.

Now, just for funsies, in the comments, tell me at least one (but if you can tell me three, tell me three!) thing you love about yourself right now.

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In Light of the Tragedy in Connecticut

I realize that I have yet to comment on the shooting in Connecticut. I realize that I was, until this post, a minority in the blogging world for having held off until now. But what I have to say needed a few days to breath. And I still cannot seem to find the eloquence that I long to find. And I’m sure haters are going to hate. But this is my blog with my opinions and feelings. Without further ado…

Our strongest weapon is hope. Hope for a brighter future. Hope for a more peaceful world. Hope for our children and their children.

Our biggest enemy is fear. Fear of moving forward. Fear of violence and terror. Fear for our children and their children.

We need to gather strength from our mourning hearts and courage from our fears to move forward. To continue on. To hope that the world isn’t all terrible. And to remember. When innocent children are killed for selfish and thoughtless crimes, the world weeps. For one brief moment, they are everyone’s children. But after the news had aired, the children are returned to the earth, and the world resumes in blissful ignorance.

Until it happens again.

What, then, can we do to prevent such a tragedy?

6 months ago, 70 people were injured or killed in a movie theater.

5 years ago, 50 people were injured or killed at a Virginia university.

13 years ago, more than 30 people were injured or killed in a Colorado high school.

Can such tragedies be prevented? What can we do to help our children and their children? Instead of placing blame, we need to take responsibility. We need to hold ourselves accountable. We need to hope. We need to have faith…in something.

someecard tragedy Sandy Hook Elementary

I’ve been mostly appalled with the judgmental hostility floating around the internet. When an even like that at Sandy Hook Elementary occurs, we shouldn’t start pointing fingers at the people who manage to make it through the day laughing and playing with their families or friends. The world doesn’t stop when anyone passes away. The world doesn’t stop when human beings are cold. Or hungry. Or abused. Or mentally distressed. The world weeps, but it does not stop; not for a second. You can choose to dwell on the tragic events that the news chose to publicize (because yes, a lot of other tragic events happen that you don’t even know about), or you can choose to do something about it. Live your life to the fullest. Contact a politician. Do something nice for others. Be a decent human being that makes other peoples’ lives worth living.

The following blog posts have been inspirational in my journey to find the right words:

Still Life Miniatures-So Much Going On

First Time Mom and Dad-An Open Letter to Media Hounds

It’s a Dome Life-I Don’t Have Any Words

The B(itch)log-What is Wrong With You People?

To them, I say, thank you.

What do you think? Am I wrong?

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