Why Shonda Rhimes is Dead to Me

BIG. FAT. SPOILER ALERT. If you’re not up to date on Grey’s, walk away now. From the show. Or this post. Or both. One of those.


I’m not ashamed. I’m in mourning. For eleven years, I’ve been in a tumultuous relationship with Grey’s Anatomy. We had our ups and downs. We jumped through quite a few crazy hoops. We let a lot of really atrocious shit slide. We loved and lost, but this loss is too much. This broke me. This destroyed us.

Shonda, you’re an asshole. A spiteful, malicious bitch. Grey’s Anatomy MADE you. The fans MADE you. You betrayed our trust. You don’t give enough fucks about Grey’s, even though it’s the one that put you on the map. This was something you needed to do better. It needed to BE better. Meredith deserved better. WE deserve better. And quite frankly, Prince Fucking Charming shouldn’t have died. Sure, it’s a drama. But you turned a drama into a tragedy. And not even a good one. Killing off eleven years of emotional investment with a stupid, fleeting, single-episode plot is just wrong.

You didn’t even make Derek’s death a remotely decent or reliable plot twist. First, you skirted around a dozen different ways McDreamy could have left the show.  He could have stayed in DC. He could have cheated (thank GOD you didn’t do that) on Mer. He could have been killed in another plane crash (insert eye roll here). He could have died in the car crash at the beginning of the episode. And so on and so forth. Then, you let him die alone. ‘Da fuck?

For someone who’s praised as such a gifted TV writer, your inexcusable story arc sure did leave us with a lot of questions. Why didn’t Bailey tell Meredith that she had been on a call with Derek earlier that day? Or that the call had dropped? If he was in a dead zone, why did his phone buzz? Why would he stop in the middle of the street to answer it? Where was his phone and ID in that mess to identify him? Did he need to be a John Doe? If they airlift people from the middle of nowhere to Grey Sloan ALL THE DAMN TIME, why didn’t they do it this time? Don’t write him off dying alone in some podunk fucking hospital.  Don’t make Meredith make the decision to pull the plug alone. Seriously?

I’m fucking done. And I’m not the only one. We’re pissed, Shonda. And not oh-my-god-I-can’t-wait-to-watch-the-next-episode pissed. 102,000 fans and counting are signing petitions and shit to bring back the character you eliminated in the most horrific way.

You think we want to watch any more of your shitty cry fests after you destroyed any chance of Bright and Shiny Meredith ever, at all? After you killed off a character in the most senseless, asinine way? No. That shit will not taint my television. But just in case you were wondering, here are a few ways you could have left the fans with a little less bitter, we-quit-you rage.

You Could Have Allowed His Death to Have Meaning

Okay. You want to kill him. You’re a vindictive writer like that. If he had to die that day, let him die saving one of those teenagers. Or the little girl. Or her mom. Don’t let his death be completely void of any rhyme or reason. If it were such a beautiful day to save lives (every life but his own), he should have died to prevent someone else from dying. You could have created a believable heroic story on one of the ferry boats he loved so much. Or he could have died pushing someone away from the explosion that happened in the beginning of the episode. Derek did not have to die for naught.

You Could Have Let Him Stay in DC

Everyone was okay when he was in DC. Sure, he was Skyping his family more than seeing them. But if you had let him live, Mer could take the kids on weekend trips and he could come home a little more often. You wouldn’t need to show any of that. You would just need to mention it every now and then. The point is that they’re still together and in love. He’s still Prince Charming and Mer’s still happy and rocking as a surgeon.

You Could Have Faded Him to Black

You know that place you were headed with the happy non-brilliant-surgeon, soccer-coach-dad thing? That. Do that. Dr. Shepherd would have flitted off into the sunset and lived happily ever after as a devoted husband and dad. He could be mentioned in passing as doing something perfectly lovely as a stay at home dad while all hell breaks loose in the hospital and his baby sister would save the day. He would never need to appear on the show, but we’d be happy…knowing he was dedicated to Mer and their family.

But you didn’t do any of these things, Shonda. Instead, you followed your tired surprise-but-not-really plot twist formula. Grey’s Anatomy is just like Game of Thrones. Except the characters are much more likable, and when you kill them off, abruptly, without thought or even a solid story arc, you’re an asshole.

I’d say that I’m waiting for Meredith to be executed the way of Eddard Stark, but I won’t be around to see it. Because I’m so over it (but not really, because I’m in fucking pain). And Shonda Rhimes is dead to me.


Am I alone in this nonsense? Are you a Grey’s fan gone rogue? What shows are you emotionally invested in? What are TV deal breakers for you?

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  1. HAHAHAHAHA! Well said. I wish you watched Dexter. Those writers need a bitch slap too!

  2. I didn’t even realize this show was still on the air. Oh well.

  3. Tamalamadingdong says:

    Holy shite, you are definitely not alone! I gave up on the show when Torres got into the accident during her pregnancy. That episode made me realize that Rhimes held nothing sacred for the characters. We went from an equal rights happily ever after to potential dead baby in ONE episode. Shotty transitions like that turn drama into tragedy, and the whole show becomes an elaborate mindf*&^% instead of entertainment. I’m so glad I walked away then because I’d be one of the people drawing up petitions and phoning ABC. Offing McDreamy is BAD form. It’s a total disrespect to the craft and the viewers. I’m surprised they allowed it to air. Rhimes should be out of a job, no self respecting viewer could possibly trust that woman as an artist.

    • Thank you my friend! I wish I had left the show years ago, but I kept pressing on, because I was invested in Grey’s longer than anything else pretty much ever. And this was just THE WORST. There are only a few writers on the planet that I truly can’t stand, and she is most certainly one of them thanks to her blatant disregard for the people who pushed her to the top.

  4. Idk maybe I’m just too much of a realist. I like these sort of tragic things happening. It reminds you that life is precious and you really need to cherish every moment with the ones you love. Every single moment.

    • You make a good point. And I would be on board with it if the writing of this particular episode along with the last season or so hadn’t been so atrocious and full of plot holes.

  5. Have to admit, I’m not a Greys fan, but I’ve gone through a loss just like this, thanks to the man I’ve dubbed “The Male Shonda Rhimes” , Marc Cherry, creator of Desperate Housewives, who disrespected fans in the final season with a shocking death.

    DH made him, the fans made him, and that was the thanks we got, simply because he knew the show was ending, and ratings didn’t matter and as such he did whatever he wanted, fans be damned, ruining one of the key relationships of the series and tainting all their memories in past episodes.

    It’s disgusting that these creators and show runners have so little regard for fans who support their shows from the start.

  6. JANET Houser says:

    Not only that it made her but she took it from ER and went from there. ALL of her shows, All of them, pause all of these shows speak the same. So now she has all of these shows where the characters repeat the same things and pause in between certain words and they all, all of them speak the same. speaking the same is reiterating the same words over and over and always with a pause. Sometimes when the repeat the same things and pause it can take many minutes so speaking the same words over and over many times gets much more air time. Get it! 🙂 LOL

  7. You are great…you said all the feelings i had after the pain of losing mcdreamy…you’re my person ,in this occasion! ❤ really dear , i’m agree with u cuz u know its a drama and we need drama,with all the hurrible things they made happened in the show just for making it realist as real life,but the legend of MERDER great love story was the centre of the show,was the main reason for fans to fall in love with that and be it’s fans…but now everything is more unkinde than life could be…i quit to watch it after that cruel episode ,like u, and u know i watched some scenes of it about his funeral, it was hurrible,no one was there for great famous eurosurgeon,even addie,even Cristina !,mer’s person! ,and not even his mom and 3 other sisters!…

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